Generation of Change

I sit back and often wonder if there is any hope for this generation. People my age (26) and below seem so misguided, and they believe there’s nothing wrong with not knowing anything about what’s going to happen in their lives down the road. We’re walking around as if there’s no tomorrow or any reason to prepare for tomorrow. Well there is a tomorrow and we better start changing some things today if we’re going to survive.

Sex, money and fun is everything to younger people these days. They look for sex constantly, but do not know the first things about love. They’re out having fun everyday but do not know how to be content at home and safe with loved ones. Money is their top priority but they do not want to do the things necessary to ensure that they will have a enough money to support themselves in the future.

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Sex can wait. So many of us have kids(I have none) and do not even care if we have more. If you’re younger than 30 and have one kid, than that is manageable; but there are kids out here 24 years old with three kids and they fail to change their sexual habits. Being sexually active is something you need to think twice about when you’re out there having kids. Think about cutting back, to keep yourself from becoming pregnant or getting someone pregnant. Not only is it a bad idea to have kids at a young age, but most these kids are growing up in single-parent households. If we can’t offer a healthy family setting for our children then we need to get our priorities in order.

There’s no simple answer to any of this but you can help yourself. If you want to raise kids the right way, then it is best that you really start taking your life more serious; not throwing yourself around to anyone willing to sleep with you. Today, just sleeping with someone seems to be a good enough reason to start a relationship and that is truly a shame. There is no more dating or getting to know someone. People are hopping into these quick relationships, having kids, and then finding out that they made a mistake somewhere down the line. At that point it is too late to just up and leave someone, unless you’re preparing yourself and your kid to struggle by not having a complete family and the needed support of a complete family.

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Money, we all know how much we need it to take care of ourselves. Do not mistaken taking care of yourself with having money, because they are not the same thing. Our generation is working and spending – that’s it. They are not putting money away for the future. They are setting themselves up to be working for the rest of their lives with no chance at taking the next step. You have to sacrifice the dollar chase and focus on the things that will bring the cash in when it matters most – later in life when it’s time to settle down and be serious.

Focus on establishing a career, or meeting your goals and see where that takes you, before you start spending anything. Save your money while you work your way up the ladder because the ground beneath you can break at any moment – leaving you with little financial stability. When you get to the point in life when you have the job you’ve worked so hard for – then you can afford to be a little more loose. You cannot afford it while you’re working as a nurse or dropping off packages in the middle of the winter. There’s more to life than that if you to search for it.

Fun can wait as well. Have fun when you do not have to go home and worry about if you spent too much money while you were partying all weekend. Have fun when you can actually go home and feel good all week, without worry and stress. For the youth, having an excessive amount of “fun” is just an escape or a way to impress others. These people aren’t really having fun, because eventually they’ll realize that they have wasted a lot of valuable time. You could have been working towards goals instead of drinking and throwing your money away.

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Save your time and money. Cut back on the fun, because it isn’t going anywhere. If you choose to live it up now, then you won’t have much to celebrate about when it counts the most. You’re taking away from the time you need to focus, throwing it away, instead of preparing for the future. Not only your future, but your children’s and your family’s future as well. You’ll have a lot more fun at 30 with no worries and a healthy family to come home to, opposed to being a mid-20 something who goes out and blows their whole check on drinks, food and drugs; then going home to an empty bed.

The signs to do better are all around us, but we have to take notice to them. I am apart of this generation, but I’ve survived the blindness. Now I can clearly see our destiny if we do not change our ways. I want everyone to be able to enjoy themselves in the future, even if that means shutting it down for now. Now is our time to grow and learn. You do not want to look back on yourself and wonder how you managed to miss the signs. Read the signs and look for help. Improve yourself – our generation needs a hand, a guide to a better future, but only you can help yourself. Most of us will learn when it is too late, but some of us will be smart enough to know that they need to do better now, so that we can truly enjoy ourselves in the future. Congratulate yourself later, but let us start the change now.

I Set My World On Fire

I have set my world on fire. Burning everything that has held me back before. I will take the ashes and use them to rebuild my life. No longer will I leave a gasoline trail so that someone can throw a lit match when I reach my goals. No one will be able to deter me from success. As that fire burns, I’m searching around on my soul to throw any negativity into the blaze. I will do away with all the bad. I feel more relieved as the pain turns into thick black smoke, disappearing into thin air. It will be a test to rebuild but that’s fine with me as long as the pieces come from positive components.

 

Keep Your Friends Close And Your Enemies Closer

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Ever hear the term “keep your friends close and your enemies closer”? This isn’t just some witty saying , it’s a lesson in life that everyone should understand. Your enemies in life can teach you a lot about yourself without you even realizing it. Your enemies aren’t afraid to tell you things that a friend might avoid. Enemies may be people you dislike but that doesn’t mean you should keep your distance from them. It’s good to keep your enemies close enough to keep a watchful eye on them.

Listen to what your enemies are saying about you. It’s important to know why someone feels so negatively towards you. If you can understand why it is they hate you, that could teach you how to love your friends even more. It’s just like learning from a mistake. Enemies tell you things you may not want to hear but some of those things are things you may need to hear. You could be overlooking your own flaws. A rival may be able to teach you more about yourself than a friend can. People who you deem enemies are keeping a close eye on your every move. They may dislike you but they want to watch your every step so they’re there to see you fall.

Watch them as they watch you. Learn from their success and their mistakes. Keep them close and have your friends watch over you. See how much you pick up from their negativity. Try to turn those negatives into positives. You have to realize that the more you displease an enemy, the more it is you’re pleasing a friend. Know your enemies weaknesses and their strengths, because there’s a chance they know yours. Walk side by side with an enemy, see who they relate to, know what they like, feel what they feel, so this way they can’t surprise you. The friends of your enemies are also your enemies. If you know who they associate with then you’ll know who to say away from. You have your best friends, now decide who’s your worst enemy. You need to keep them close in order to stay a step ahead.

 

Higher Learning

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No matter your height, weight, or age … you will never stop growing. Not as long as you allow yourself the room needed to grow. We may never get taller but our minds will continue to stretch. Every single day on this earth gives you the opportunity to learn. Whether you learn through a message or you soak up some information, it’s all  a step in the right direction.

As humans, we can easily be sidetracked by work, family, and entertainment. Let’s be honest, no one wants to sit around 24-hours a day with their heads stuck in a book, but what good is it if you’re not doing it at all. No matter how busy you may be, there’s always time to learn. Whether you’re picking up cooking skills, or seeking self-improvement help, learning is essential in our futures and the futures of our children.

It isn’t fully a teachers responsiblity to teach your kids. You have more responsibility as a parent to bring out something in your kid. Try teaching your kid things they can’t learn in school while keeping them from learning them the hard way. The more you know, the better. Your kid may want to be a scientist because one day you explained to him how people float in space because of its lack of gravity. Although he may be taught the same thing in school, there’s nothing more special than a learning relationship between child and parent.

Aside from children, it’s still important for you to drop the controller and pick up a book or two. The internet is personally my favorite learning tool. The Internet is the world at your fingertips. Stop downloading and posting for a second and learn something. Pick up on a new language, learn how to do your own taxes, whatever it may be, just plant the seed of learning and watch it grow.

The Life of Death

Death is one of humanities largest fears without a doubt. Early in my life, I had to face death. My father was stricken with lung cancer when I was in the 7th grade. It was that moment in my life when I realized that death isn’t to be feared but it’s to be expected. Life itself presents a much larger fear factor than death ever could.

I watched my father cringe in pain for so long, I knew it his time was coming … I understood that. I also knew that death was the easiest thing he had to deal with. When I looked into his eyes, I could see happiness. I was in the room when he passed and it was as if I instantly became aware of so many things I overlooked in the past.

Death was not the enemy. Life was my antagonist. Losing my father, I knew the odds were stacked against me. I knew my time would eventually come, but it was nothing to fear. Death … to me … is an accomplishment. You have to fear life in order to appreciate it. Fearing death, and living life will only distort your vision, fearing life and expecting death, gives you a perspective that few can truly understand.

Once I grasped that thought, that life is just scary, I eventually knew I had to face my fears. If I was afraid to live, how could I ever succeed. Fear and struggle is a common factor to success for many people. I knew I had to be 100% positive, 100% of the time in order to balance things out in my life because fear and negativity will be a constant. I knew … I had learned one of life’s greatest lessons … through death.

An Early Lesson In Life

As a kid, life is just so happy isn’t it ? You go about your day having fun, not worrying about money, love, and all other buzz killing issues. My childhood was pretty typical but what made it different was the environment. I was born and raised in Philadelphia, PA. Philly isn’t one of the best places to grow up but to me it will always be home. As a child you learn lessons you wouldn’t learn until years down the road if you were living elsewhere. Looking back I take pride in some of the early lessons I learned on the streets of Philadelphia. There’s one lesson that I can say really changed my whole outlook on people and life.

If you’re familiar with the area I grew up in, around Erie Avenue, than you know how difficult a place this can be to live and survive. On the streets you hear a lot of talk, but you never know what to believe. My friends and I knew this guy, well we saw this guy around I guess you could say. He was tall black male mid-thirties with dark shades and a black fitted-cap. His name was Eddie. Eddie was a scary character. He was straight out of a horror movie. He carried a long steel chain around in one hand and a large wolf like dog in the other, and to top it all off, he NEVER spoke.

I was a pretty curious kid. I wasn’t really afraid of Eddie, I was more interested in actually getting him to talk. By then I had heard so many horror stories about him, I knew I was taking a risk. I could easily become dog food if I attempted to have a conversation with Eddie. So … here I was … walking around to the block of the neighborhood villain. I approached his front porch and saw him sitting there, staring off into space. I wanted to stop but my feet just kept on moving. Before I knew it, I was at the store buying candy. On the way back I had built up enough courage to stop in front of Eddie’s porch. I waved … he stared. I didn’t know what to do so I started to walk up to his steps to see if I’d get any reaction out of him.

I reached the top of the step and only a steel railing separated Eddie and I. He stood up and my heart started pounding. I felt like a snowman in the summer … stuck, cold and slowly melting away. Then something amazing happened … Eddie said “What’s Up”. I was trembling by then, not even knowing how afraid I truly was until this plan was put into action. Eddie had a voice, and a normal one at that. He walked over and opened the railing and told me to have a seat. “Brian, right?” Eddie said. I didn’t know how he knew my name but he did. “You’re dad is my brothers best friend.” Aaron was the brother he spoke of, a really good friend of my family. The news shocked me honestly, I had no idea but how could I really? No one ever spoke of Eddie and he never spoke himself.

I loosened up and we talked for what seemed like hours. Eddie explained how he knew he wasn’t the most social person and that people say negative things about him. He told me that people will make you out to be an enemy, just to be the hero. At the time, much of what Eddie explained didn’t really sink into my young mind. Looking back, that day, I learned a lot about people and how it’s best to get to know someone before believing anything anyone says about that person. Eddie turned out to be a really good guy and til this day we talk and share stories about the old neighborhood. I went back to my friends and told them that they were completely wrong about Eddie. They didn’t believe anything I said. Little did they know, they were missing out on a lesson that they would eventually learn one way or another … don’t judge a book by its cover.