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We can only reach new heights by getting over our lowest points. There are ups without downs. Embrace the hard times and use them to elevate yourself to a higher plateau. Our emotions entrap us at times, keeping us grounded. It is normal to feel sad during hard times but it is also possible to feel happy during sad times if you allow the joy to overcome that sorrow within you. I am happy at the moment, but that doesn’t mean I can’t feel sadness at any moment. You control your emotions. If you feel sad, it is because you allow yourself to feel that way. Stop the sadness and allow yourself to feel happiness when you need it the most. If all else fails, listen to the song in the link – Pharrell Williams – Happy

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Failure Is Only Temporary

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When you’re down there’s no way you could go any lower. When you’re high, there’s always room to rise. We will only go reach as far as we extend. There’s only one rock bottom, but there’s an unlimited space to fly among the stars. The bad things will fade away, while the good times will last forever. Don’t strap yourself down in self-pity. Get up and start your ascension into the sky. If you aren’t going to try to reach unbelievable new heights, then you should move over and make room for someone who will at least try to soar. At birth, there’s only one way to go for human beings and that’s forward. There is no retracting time. Move on through positivity and use the negative as a stepping stone. Remember this: there is no limits on success and failure is only temporary.

The Puzzle of Life

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Life is a puzzle. In the beginning we aren’t given every piece we need to complete the puzzle. We acquire more pieces as we grow and learn the purpose or our lives.

As we live and experience life, we are given more puzzle pieces. Everyone’s puzzle is different. Some puzzles are harder than others. Some are easier to complete, some of us have more pieces than others, and some of us will never see our puzzle get completed.

It’s up to each of us to do whatever it takes to see that our puzzles do indeed get completed one day. Every day gives us the opportunity to put together more and more pieces so that our picture becomes clearer. Some will know how to finish their puzzle sooner than others. Those who do will then be able to help others put their pieces in the right places.

When pieces are misplaced we have to figure out where they belong. It’s okay for us to go back over pieces we’ve already used. No one normally completes their puzzle on the first attempt. Don’t get discouraged when pieces become lost or damaged, there are more pieces that can replace those that are missing.

Be patient but be aware that there is a limit to how much time we have to finish. That doesn’t mean rush but what it does mean is to make sure that every puzzle piece is handled with love and care. The harder you try, the better the outcome. The ultimate prize is completing your puzzle to see what a beautiful work of art you’ve put together. Good luck !

Building A Relationship

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It’s hard to find a good relationship these days. It’s also damn near impossible to be in a relationship and maintain your sanity. Everyone is just so complicated, it makes it hard to find common ground with people. I have been through 2 serious relationships in my life. During those relationships, I never felt like myself. I found myself being someone my partner wanted me to be. It’s important to let your partner be themselves.

Being attracted to someone isn’t a reason to start a relationship. Having things in common and having an understanding about what both parties need is a better reason. Before you give yourself away to that special someone, think about what you’re going to need from that person in order for you to feel like you want that friendship or partnering to continue. Is what you’re asking fair to that person, are you giving them a chance to be themselves? Or are you demanding they make changes so their lifestyle can accommodate your lifestyle as well? Be fair.

I fear a long-term relationship. When I find myself falling for a girl, I normally back out before things get serious because I knew the stress that comes along with a relationship. You have to be mentally prepared to give every bit of your emotions to one person. It’s much easier for you to worry about yourself. There’s nothing wrong with being afraid to be with someone. It should be more common, that way less hearts will be put in the line of fire.

I truly feel like I am ready to be in a relationship but that doesn’t mean I need to be involved with anyone at the time. It’s important to me to find someone who feels the same as I do. Someone who see’s the situation as a realist and not someone who just wants to feel loved. I’m 25 years old and I know what I want from someone. The problem is that the someone might not know what they want from me or for themselves. Some people are fine with finding out what they want as their relationship gets stronger. I find it more beneficial to already know what it is you both want.

It’s unhealthy to rush things in any relationship. Our younger generation has made a habit of moving along too quickly. Younger people never seem to grasp reality of being in a long-term relationship, they’re normally happy with living in the moment. Not knowing what to expect in the future is the fastest way to be caught off guard by sudden changes in your relationship. Communicating is always important but it’s especially essential in the early stages of a relationship. Let it be known what you expect, what you do not like, what it is you like, and how you feel  even before you officially start dating someone. Be patient, think, and prepare yourself for the war of love.

The Love Within

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I started my first “long-term” relationship when I was 18. Honestly, it was a really good feeling. That feeling is what I described as love, a quick mistake. Being young and it being my first real relationship, I was eager to be in love and so was my girlfriend at the time. We both jumped in head first. We didn’t stop to question whether we were both ready to actually be 100% dedicated to each other both mentally and physically.

Time eventually made that decision for us. Eventually, things started to fall apart. I was hurt, but in the end. I just figured that it wasn’t true love. I learned valuable lessons from that relationships and it carried into my next relationship. The problem was that the next relationship felt the same as the last. Two young adults, craving love, not thinking about the future, living in the moment. Again, our relationship fell victim to time and misunderstanding.

Today, I’m single and in love. That may sound strange but it is true. I realized that the love I searched for all along was inside me the whole time. I dug deep to find it. It was a long process but I eventually knew that if I was gonna find true love, I had to know what it was to love without a relationship. Understanding love isn’t an easy task. You shouldn’t depend on anyone else’s love, only your own. You have to understand how important love is and feel that love enough to give it to another. The hardest part is finding someone who understand love just as much as you. Some have to be guided, don’t be afraid to lead a lost soul into the light.

Now that I realize that loving myself was the start, I know that my next relationship would have a better end. I can’t be 100% that this means I will fall in love and have a perfect union with the woman of my dreams. What I can be sure of is that I’m ready to appreciate a bond between two people more than I ever have. I feel in control of my emotions and my actions. Unlike before, I understand what it takes to keep someone happy and it starts with keeping yourself happy. There’s love inside of all of us, there’s no need to wonder if you’ll ever fall in love because that love lies deep within you. What’s more important than being in love is knowing how to love, knowing the importance and the power of the love within. Find the love inside of you and see where it takes you.

Ordinary People

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People come in all shapes, sizes, and backgrounds. People can put you through the happiest times of your life or it could be the exact opposite. Family is good for putting you through the best and worst of things. We as people are still learning how to truly accept each other and our roles in life and the lives of the people around us.I believe it’s best for us to try and embrace people to the fullest.

The reason I say TRY is because I know how hard some folk can make it to really appreciate anything about them. Then there are the ones who give you trouble but you know they want the best for you. There’s even the people who you may not know very well. Not knowing someone too well is a perfect excuse to get to know them. There’s never any telling what a person can teach you. You can learn so much from people without even noticing.

Trust is a big reason a lot of people don’t last as friends or in any relationship. I believe this is because most people like to have trust earned. I give people the opportunity to gain my trust rater quickly if I haven’t given it to them already. If someone does not deserve your trust they will eventually find a way to lose that trust you began with. Let time be the judge of if someone of worth trusting. For starters just take pride in meeting a new person. After all, we are just ordinary people.