I’ve personally been through some very rocky relationships in my past – most with women who were sure they loved me but actually did not know the first thing about love. Me, I believe I have an idea of what love is, but most importantly – I do know when I love someone wholeheartedly or if I’m just putting on a show. Sadly for me, I have also had my run with women who have put on shows. Honestly, I have never not wanted to be in a relationship with the person I chose to take the leap with. Far too many times do I see women who just want to be in love and not actually caring who it is they’re in love with. That’s what I call lusting for love. Those are some of the toughest relationships to deal with because those type of people are hard to crack and will do anything to keep their lust for love fed. It is a dangerous game once a partner sees that their lover is just with them because they fear being lonely, instead of naturally feeling like they belong with you.
Last night was a prime example of how a person can be very misleading with love. I will not go into details but a female whom a very good friend was dating showed her boyfriend that she was with him for all the wrong reasons. Once he caught wind of who she truly was, she did everything in her power to keep things going – to keep herself happy and in love, regardless of how hurt my friend was about the situation. Girls who just want to be with someone for the ride aren’t easy to break as I said before. You have to notice the little things they do to crack their code. These type people are usually party going, materialistic type of people whom have a hard time staying in one place too long. Watch out for these people on your journey to the promise land of love, because you won’t see them coming. Be aware.
We can only reach new heights by getting over our lowest points. There are ups without downs. Embrace the hard times and use them to elevate yourself to a higher plateau. Our emotions entrap us at times, keeping us grounded. It is normal to feel sad during hard times but it is also possible to feel happy during sad times if you allow the joy to overcome that sorrow within you. I am happy at the moment, but that doesn’t mean I can’t feel sadness at any moment. You control your emotions. If you feel sad, it is because you allow yourself to feel that way. Stop the sadness and allow yourself to feel happiness when you need it the most. If all else fails, listen to the song in the link – Pharrell Williams – Happy
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The wind spoke to me and said I should go
I followed, I walked, until I ran into snow
The rain would tell me to continue my journey
Then the thunder clapped, but lightning had warned me
This a place where you will need some protection
A little light in the night, and darkness for reflection
Run, run and never look back
Life is too grand to fall in a trap
The rain was pouring but I knew that could change
Still, I keep on running, with success on my brain
All of the weather had just finally started to clear
When the sun starts to shine, then happiness is near
I will never understand people who strive for perfection. Imperfection is NOT something to be ashamed of. I believe that imperfection builds character. The flaws within ourselves push us to be better people. If we were all perfect, we would not know how important life truly is. It takes hardship and pain to want better things for yourself. In order to get better things for yourself, you have to work hard, you have to stress, you have to scratch, claw, and fight for those things. If life were perfect, how could one strive for more? How could one want something so bad that they’d give anything to get it? How could one truly love anything if we didn’t know what it was like to be feel hatred? The imperfections of life are real. Perfection is a myth, it is an unachievable goal, it is a mark set by someone who refused to accept reality. I am realist and I am happy to be imperfect. I accept my flaws. It’s the inconsistencies in my life that get me out of bed each and every morning. I would have no reason to wake up if life were perfect. I’d have nothing to want, nothing to crave, nothing to work for, and no reason to live!
One thing that people do far too much of is being judgmental towards others. It’s not a good feeling to walk out of your house and feel like you’re being judged by the first person you see. In all honesty, that person may be actually passing judgement on you. I know we all tend to judge others at some point but are we judging them for the right reasons? For most of us, the answer to that question is NO.
If you walk by someone and glance at their clothes and then decide that he or she isn’t the type of person you would associate yourself with, well then you have a problem. You just made a decision about who it is you would hang out with based on their attire. This is a totally disrespectful and childish thing to do. You do realize that someone may look at you in the same way and decide that they also wouldn’t want anything to do with you? People get judged for all types of reasons and they’re normally all the wrong reasons.
Why waste your time judging people on their clothes, looks, accents, skin color, or whatever it may be? Why not give people a chance? You never know what type of person it is you’re passing up on. For all you know, they could be your future boss, spouse, or family. It does take more time and effort to get to know someone but isn’t it worth it? Isn’t that one of the many wonders of life? The ability to meet all types of people. If you’re going to spend time judging these people, can’t spend time getting to know that person as well? Yes, you can.
I can’t recall how many times I’ve heard my friends or family talk down about a person whom they didn’t really know. I’d sit there and think, well I do know this person and I think they’re pretty cool. I know for a fact that I’m judged daily by someone, somewhere. I get judged because I’m outspoken, emotional, and I tend to like things that some people can’t relate to. What they don’t know is that I’m a loyal friend/partner, I enjoy meeting new people and giving them the benefit of the doubt by accepting outsiders into my circle no matter how they dress, talk, or what they’re into.
The differences in people is what fascinates me. I guess there’s a large number of you out there who like to surrounded by the same people for your entire lives. If not, then I suggest you stop passing negative judgments on people who could be friends instead of outcasts. When I’m judging someone it’s usually after I’ve taken the time to get to know them. Otherwise, I’d have no right to judge them in the first place. More people need to take my stand on the situation. Some may think these people are weird and dress funny, but I think they’re just as cool as you. Now, you wouldn’t know that because you’re too shallow to give them a chance. Well, you only live once … so meet and befriend as many good people as you can because you never know who’s judging you.
I remember when fitting in was the popular thing to do. I knew people who got completely out of character in order to mix in with the cool crowd. At the time I was amongst those kids looking for a place to fit in. I found myself straying away from the things I loved most, just so I could seem cooler to people who really didn’t matter to me.
To this very day, those same people are still trying to fit in. Although they aren’t in high school they try to relate to their co-workers, family, and friends by taking on a completely different persona. A person that those friends can relate to. Me, well I gave up on fitting in a long time ago. If being myself makes me an outcast well that’s just the way it’s going to be.
I will never again try to be someone I’m not just to save face for people who can’t accept who I really am. Some people may dislike the real me but those who love me only love me for who it is I am and not who I try to be. I’m a young, opinionated, outspoken, and brutally honestly person. Like it or not, that’s just me.
Those are some traits you just can’t show when you’re trying to be accepted by whomever it is you put your mask on for. I took that mask off a long time ago and realized that I have to be me. I’m just different than a lot of people I know. I take pride in being different. i speak my mind and I don’t worry about meaningless opinions. People will judge you no matter how you project yourself.
I know some people who live off of trying to please others. I could never be that type of person. I may be annoying and hard to understand at times but I always speak the truth. Everything I do and say comes from the heart. I barely ever have to think about what I’m going to say because nobody knows me better than me. It’s far more easy to be yourself than it is to be that person you want everyone to believe you are.
Being different is okay. Being normal is fine too, but being “fake” is unacceptable.