How many of us has experienced infidelity on a personal level? Most of us have dealt with the issue one way or another. Cheating sadly has become a way of life for humans. 17% of all divorces are caused by cheating. This is a fairly high number considering all of the other reasons marriages end. There may not be an answer to why so many people chose to have affairs, but questions will continue to be asked. As time goes by, more and more relationships are falling victim to infidelity. There is no quick nor easy solution to the problem. The human’s desire to cheat is fueled by the fact that we are sexual beings who have trouble controlling our need to please those desires.
The passion for sex builds within us at an early age. In the early stages of our teens, we start to grow curious about the act of sex. Our hormones start raging out of control, and our minds become fixated on exploring things sexually. Kids normally start out with pornographic material. X-Rated images and movies only further the teenager’s sexual curiosity. Teenagers who become more active during the sexual growth period are more likely to experience sexual activity earlier than teens who aren’t as socially involved. Although teens who are not active aren’t physically sexually involved, their sexual appetites will grow stronger along with their curiosities. This is the beginning of an uncontrollable sexual journey.
As we grow older and enter the stage of young adults, we become more emotional. Now instead of meeting our sexual goals, we want to explore the world of love. That’s when we start to get involved in serious relationships. Some of us get lucky and actually find a relationship that lasts forever. Most of us will have to go through many different partnerships in search for the person we will eventually marry. If we’re lucky enough, we will eventually find that special person. What happens from here is pretty typical. You’re in love, you’ve been with this person for years, so you decide to get married.
Now, so much has happened since you were just a teen wondering what it felt like to have sex. So many things have changed since then. You have a house, kids, a career, you’re going bald, your life is nothing like it used to be. There’s still one thing about you that really has not changed, and that’s your sexual desire. Some people can control those desires enough to be content about having sex with one person for the rest of their lives. Those of us who can’t, have to try a little harder to remain that loving and loyal spouse. Also, being married can be taking a toll on you mentally. Even if that is not case, there’s always the possibility that you could slip up and act out on those sexual desires burning inside of you.
The future of your marriage is now in the palms of your hands. You don’t know why you’re feeling the need to be unfaithful. You could have met a person that made it hard for you to control those desires, or you may not be satisfied with the quality of the sex you and your partner are having. Whatever the reasons is, it’s still up to you to fight off those feelings in hopes of keeping your marriage in tact. Cheating does not just happen, it is a premeditated action by two parties who agree to have an affair. You are in complete control of your emotions, and actions. Although as humans, we are sexual beings, we all have free will. You have the ability to say no when you know something is wrong. It may not be an easy choice to make, but it’s the right choice to make.
If you cannot control these feelings, it’s best to do what would happen in the result of an affair anyway, and get a divorce. That option may seem drastic but why lie to yourself if you’re unable to control your need to still sexually explore. Your days of being a curious youth are over. That sexually journey should now be behind you. All of those questions have been answered. You’re now an adult with the responsibility of being the best spouse you can be, not only for yourself but for your partner and your family. The choice is yours, is cheating really worth the trouble? Or will you find a way to suppress your childish desires in order to save your marriage?