Keep Your Friends Close And Your Enemies Closer

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Ever hear the term “keep your friends close and your enemies closer”? This isn’t just some witty saying , it’s a lesson in life that everyone should understand. Your enemies in life can teach you a lot about yourself without you even realizing it. Your enemies aren’t afraid to tell you things that a friend might avoid. Enemies may be people you dislike but that doesn’t mean you should keep your distance from them. It’s good to keep your enemies close enough to keep a watchful eye on them.

Listen to what your enemies are saying about you. It’s important to know why someone feels so negatively towards you. If you can understand why it is they hate you, that could teach you how to love your friends even more. It’s just like learning from a mistake. Enemies tell you things you may not want to hear but some of those things are things you may need to hear. You could be overlooking your own flaws. A rival may be able to teach you more about yourself than a friend can. People who you deem enemies are keeping a close eye on your every move. They may dislike you but they want to watch your every step so they’re there to see you fall.

Watch them as they watch you. Learn from their success and their mistakes. Keep them close and have your friends watch over you. See how much you pick up from their negativity. Try to turn those negatives into positives. You have to realize that the more you displease an enemy, the more it is you’re pleasing a friend. Know your enemies weaknesses and their strengths, because there’s a chance they know yours. Walk side by side with an enemy, see who they relate to, know what they like, feel what they feel, so this way they can’t surprise you. The friends of your enemies are also your enemies. If you know who they associate with then you’ll know who to say away from. You have your best friends, now decide who’s your worst enemy. You need to keep them close in order to stay a step ahead.

 

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  2. keep your friends close and your enemies closer
    Meaning:
    Be very aware of your enemies’ behavior in order to detect and avoid any malicious actions. A: “Why were you talking to Katie? I thought you hated her.” B: “I’m trying to see if she has any dirt on me for the student council debate. Keep your friends close and your enemies closer, right?”

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    Keep your friends close and your enemies closer
    Be very aware of your enemies’ behavior in order to detect and avoid any malicious actions. A: “Why were you talking to Katie? I thought you hated her.” B: “I’m trying to see if she has any dirt on me for the student council debate. Keep your friends close and your enemies closer, right?”

    Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer.
    It took me years to understand the depth of this trite-as-ever quote.

    Most of the time, we’re incapable of comprehending certain philosophies until we’ve endured them firsthand. Sure, it makes sense to keep your enemies close, so you can keep tabs on them and seek revenge by pouring ice buckets over their heads when they least expect it.

    But, I learned this isn’t what the famous quote intended to preach at all.

    After going through life and encountering many enemies, I came to learn the quote means something a little more Buddhist and a little less vengeful.

    I encountered my first enemies when I became the prime target of my high school’s “mean girls.” On walks home from school, they’d yell out things to me like, “musical theater loser” and “you brown piece of sh*t.”

    Seeing as I was young and this was my first time being bullied, I went home and cried myself to sleep almost every night. The insults hurt like hell and I didn’t know what to do with them.

    A few years later, I made another enemy, but this time, in the form of the notorious “frenemy.” My best friend of more than 10 years decided to skip out on my sister’s wedding because she had to “study for a test.” After the wedding came and went, I barely ever heard from her again.

    Some time after the frenemy incident, I landed a job.

    We strive to keep friends close in order to enrich our lives. We’re also inclined to appraise our interpersonal bonds with consideration for the degree of “closeness” we share with one another. For these reasons, most would instinctively assume that a friend ought to be kept closer than an enemy, and this notion is only strengthened by our natural inclination to move away from unpleasantness towards the pleasant.

    This particular idiom is intended to make you think, and it achieves this by creating discord with your expectations and beliefs. At first, the thought of keeping an enemy closer than a friend—or close at all for that matter—sounds preposterous, and this compels you to ponder the idea.

    Now, why would you keep an enemy closer than a friend? Generally speaking, knowledge. The closer an enemy is to you, the more intimately you will come to know their capabilities, strengths, weaknesses, tendencies etc. You can use this knowledge to your advantage. A close enemy is also one you’re privy to the whereabouts of, so you’re much less likely to be caught off-guard.

    At another level, an enemy has much—if not more—to teach you about yourself. Superficially, your own capabilities, strengths, weaknesses, and tendencies will emerge more prominently in the presence of an enemy, and this serves as an opportunity to learn and grow.

    Even deeper, you can learn from the very animosity and opposition which exists between you and your enemy. We can choose to reflect upon why we are enemies with the person in the first place—does it all boil down to a misunderstanding? Am I prejudiced? Not only can we benefit by having our beliefs and capabilities challenged by opposition, but as we develop our understanding of an enemy, we may experience a shift in our regard for them. We may begin to view an enemy with less antagonism, and perhaps in time even come to know them as a friend.

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